Wednesday, 30 July 2014

Can You Survive A Long Distance Relationship?

Pretty personal post today but I thought I would write it anyway, especially with summer being almost over (eep!) and some people's relationships might be about to change with university and new jobs etc.  But be warned - coupley photos coming! 

So you might be wondering if you can survive a long distance relationship, and I'm here to say if you want to you can! 

Obviously every relationship is different and I'm not here as like some queen of long distance relationships (LDR)! 

My boyfriend and I have been LDRing it for almost three years, so it is totally possible to have a long term relationship when there's distance between you.  I'm in Scotland whilst he's in Northern Ireland so it's not even like we have an easy commute, it requires a plane or a boat to hop over the Irish Sea.  We have also had stints where we have had larger distances like when I was in China last summer and it will change again when I move to France for a year next month.  

So the prospect of distance isn't the kiss of death on your relationship - don't worry if you are moving away to uni or starting a job in a new city.  

Here's my tips:

Any relationship takes work and you will have to put the work in, but even more so when you are long distance.  Because you will have to make the effort to stay in touch and see each other, as well as all the normal relationship stuff. 

You need to trust, almost a blind faith in your trust in your partner.  Otherwise you will get worried and stressed out and then that isn't a healthy place to be in personally or for your relationship.  I don't mean being naive, but you need to comfortably trust and not worried about what the other person is doing, with who, where your relationship is going etc.  Which is closely linked to....

You're going to need to communicate openly and honestly.  Don't bother with games, don't huff and puff and try to mess around with each other, you don't see each other enough to play those games and will leave a bitter edge on your relationship when you do see each other. 

Use it.  Skype is amazing, but so is other tech like viber (especially when you are abroad), facetime etc.

Be busy
The times when a LDR can be hardest is if one partner has a really busy time- maybe exams or a busy period at work - and the other person doesn't.  This can mean that you might not be able to speak as much as usual.  I find that the best way to deal with that is to stay busy yourself, don't sit around waiting for a phone call.  It will make you miserable and put pressure on your partner, which is the last thing you want in a stressful time! 

Have a schedule for when you will talk and when you will see each other.  It is comforting to know when you're next going to see your other half, especially if it has been a while.  You should also try and stick to the schedule, even if it means sacrificing other things.  We try to see each other every month so sometimes that means missing out on something at uni if I'm over in Northern Ireland.

Share time together and apart 
Matty and I have a lot of shared hobbies- we both shoot, this blog and travelling.  But we also have our own hobbies which means a) we don't get lonely when we are by ourselves and b) we aren't in every tiny part of each other's lives.  Which is good and healthy!  So even when you are in a LDR you don't need to spend every waking moment together when you do see each other - I know it's tempting but time off from each other, like going to the gym or a walk is also good! 

I hope this post might have calmed some people's nerves about long distance relationships, because it's really only a big deal if you make it!  

Tuesday, 29 July 2014

Barley Fields

Another kind of prancey post, which I apologise for.  But when it's summer and I'm at home I like to get in the fields to shoot look and when you're in a field it's only appropriate to prance.  Plus I need to make the most of it before I run away to a city next year.  

I'm wearing:

Black Milk A Tribe Called White Skater Dress

Boohoo Kimono - here for £15

Chain belt - lots here


And some behind the scenes shots of walking home!

Monday, 28 July 2014

Whats In My Satchel?

Although I am on my summer break from university right now I realise that not everyone else is and people still need a handy bag for taking to school / work / whatever they do.  So I thought I would show you what I typically take to university or when I am on an internship. 

First up is the bag itself, which is from Zatchels.  I love it to death and it is such good quality, but I did have a few customer service issues with the company though - you can read about them here.  

Inside I have:

My laptop- it's perfect for student life since it's just bigger than an A4 sheet of paper and is super thin and light.  Kind of like a Macbook Air but without the frills, I really didn't need a Mac and this does me grand! 

My planner is my life source, it's what keeps me alive.  If left up to my own devices I would probably be in a duvet nest covered in food all the time.  Similar here which is mega cheap.

My diary (c/o of Viking), ever since I was in primary school I have written in a diary so like having a special notebook to fill it up.  I think this is like my 50th notebook or something!

Fancy pen (c/o of Viking), I always have a fancy pen to write in my diary and this is a really smooth rollerwriter so I love it! 

My kindle (here for £59) - I always carry it with me, unless I am reading a physical book at the time.  It's so handy!  I am currently reading all the Wizard of Oz books, what are you reading?  Kindle cover here 

For personal stuff I have my bee purse from Monsoon and the best lip product in the world- I kid you not!  This Clarins lip balm (here for £19- expensive but lasts forever) is amazing and takes me through summer and winter! 

What's in your satchel or work bag? 

Saturday, 26 July 2014

Blanx Whitening Toothpaste Review

Sorry I don't have my own picture for this post, but I threw it out when I was on holiday and I am clearly not a pro blogger.  But I just finished my tube of Blanx Whitening Toothpaste - which you can get here for £8.48.

The Good

I actually think this toothpaste works, I noticed a real difference when I used it - so did people who didn't even know I was trying a new toothpaste so that is always good.  I wish I took a before and after photo but it really didn't occur to me.  Since I have stopped using it I am really missing the effects of it.

I also like how it is non-abrasive so this means that it isn't too harsh on your teeth or gums, which is important to me as I am pretty teeth OCD.  

The Bad 

Because it doesn't go in all guns baring it does mean that it isn't a quick fix, and it certainly isn't the quickest or strongest teeth whitening on the market.  But to be honest, I am okay with that since I would rather not risk long term damage to my teeth when I am only a young 'un!  

It is also quite expensive - certainly not the cheapest option at on its way to a tenner.  But I justified it to myself as it is cheaper than professional whitening and it is not too expensive that I begrudge it.  

You do go through it quite quickly as well, so be warned! 

The Ugly? Or Not? 

Not ugly at all!  And I will be buying it again!  If you try it out, or if you have in the past let me know what you think! 

Friday, 25 July 2014

Down By The River

And so we are here, down by the river again!  With weather like this how could we not be down by the river?  

I half did a look but this is more of a non-look post, I just thought I would share to you one of the places I really like coming to.  It's one of the places where I really like walking down with Tess, there's a bridge to sit and dangle your feet off and its a perfect place to throw sticks for Tess into the river - she loves bombing into it.  

So we wandered down to the river and sat on the bridge - don't I look happy and summery?  

Then I moved over to the other bank of the river to try and show you my outfit without the sun blinding the camera, it's pretty simple but I am wearing: 

H&M French Bulldog top

Thrifted / DIY shirt 

Black Milk Clothing Fairy Paint Leggings